BABYRYAN2121 wrote: Sun Feb 23, 2025 9:23 pm
I have talked to her about it. I have not thanked her for "speaking out" that seems like it would embarrass me further (something I admit that I secretly need)...
In that case, I think it is important to thank your wife for her comment and opinion. Take the blame and humiliation. Go for it!
Never thought of actually thanking her for speaking up and pointing out I should be embarrassed. ... I should make sure she knows I am humiliated that she is embarrassed about my lack of size.
If you're finding it to be a kink then it sounds like a conversation is in order -- I'm pretty sure you and your partner want to be on the same page to make sure nobody is hurt by a misunderstanding in this realm.
If it's something that legit bothers you though, one thing I'll say is at one point my urologist had me try a daily Cialis and while I was on it, I was surprised to find myself hanging noticeably "fuller" than before.
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If you're finding it to be a kink then it sounds like a conversation is in order -- I'm pretty sure you and your partner want to be on the same page to make sure nobody is hurt by a misunderstanding in this realm.
If it's something that legit bothers you though, one thing I'll say is at one point my urologist had me try a daily Cialis and while I was on it, I was surprised to find myself hanging noticeably "fuller" than before.
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well, you are more correct in saying that this has hit my kink button. I am embarrassed by it, but not legit bothered as you suggested. Talking to her about his will be embarrassing and make me blush for sure
BABYRYAN2121 wrote: Tue Mar 11, 2025 4:36 pm
well, you are more correct in saying that this has hit my kink button. ... Talking to her about his will be embarrassing and make me blush for sure
It sounds like maybe that's what you want, though?
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It sounds like maybe that's what you want, though?
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It is, and it has been on my mind so much that I have now had a few conversations with her specifically about how it makes her feel that I was exposed for having tiny genitals. She said that it gave her a spectrum of emotions. From, embarrassed for me to embarrassed for herself being outed with me to being a little angry with me. These conversations have each led to me ending up nude or bottomless in front of her. I tried to make excuses about why it looked so small and she has been having none of it. She told me it does not "look small" It is small. She was kind of relentless about the idea that my penis may have never grown because my testicles really never dropped. I have a very small tight scrotum that at times makes me look nutless
RaccoonBatteryStaple wrote: Tue Mar 11, 2025 10:27 pm
It sounds like maybe that's what you want, though?
It is, and it has been on my mind so much that I have now had a few conversations with her specifically about how it makes her feel that I was exposed for having tiny genitals. She said that it gave her a spectrum of emotions. From, embarrassed for me to embarrassed for herself being outed with me to being a little angry with me. These conversations have each led to me ending up nude or bottomless in front of her.
I'm guessing your ending up at least partially nude is to have your body available for ready reference during these discussions? Was that your idea or hers, and how did that make you feel?
For the most part this sounds like maybe the two of you have complimentary kinks if she likes humiliating you and you like being humiliated. The angry part gives me pause though given that you don't have much of an active say in your endowment. Is your size causing a legit satisfaction issue for her? Not trying to play therapist here, just spitballing.
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I'm guessing your ending up at least partially nude is to have your body available for ready reference during these discussions? Was that your idea or hers, and how did that make you feel?
For the most part this sounds like maybe the two of you have complimentary kinks if she likes humiliating you and you like being humiliated. The angry part gives me pause though given that you don't have much of an active say in your endowment. Is your size causing a legit satisfaction issue for her? Not trying to play therapist here, just spitballing.
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Me ending up bottomless or nude for some of thees conversations was her idea. I felt exposed, humiliated, and reluctantly excited after the fact. She seemed genuinely amused and much less irritated with me then when I was first outed. It kind of feels like me taking the responsibility for the humiliation we both felt has helped the situation. So, to your point, she has been less angry, and more matter of fact with me. My size for sure causes a satisfaction issue with her. But we have an active sex life. It usually just involves me licking her to orgasm after I make a quick cummy...
RaccoonBatteryStaple wrote: Fri Mar 28, 2025 10:02 pm
I'm guessing your ending up at least partially nude is to have your body available for ready reference during these discussions? Was that your idea or hers, and how did that make you feel?
Me ending up bottomless or nude for some of thees conversations was her idea. I felt exposed, humiliated, and reluctantly excited after the fact. She seemed genuinely amused and much less irritated with me then when I was first outed.
Nice. Sounds like how I felt after being pantsed in junior high. For better or worse that seems to have wired me for a mild humiliation kink.
RaccoonBatteryStaple wrote: Fri Mar 28, 2025 10:02 pm
Is your size causing a legit satisfaction issue for her?
My size for sure causes a satisfaction issue with her. But we have an active sex life. It usually just involves me licking her to orgasm after I make a quick cummy...
I'm glad it sounds like you've found a way to make it work, then.
Until that moment your wife said what she said, you never put two and two together and realized that the nurse understood fully what your wife isn’t getting in the bedroom and she’s completely mortified as the nurse learns the (pathetic) nature of the sex life you and your wife share.
Xirix7 wrote: Thu Apr 03, 2025 6:55 pm
Until that moment your wife said what she said, you never put two and two together and realized that the nurse understood fully what your wife isn’t getting in the bedroom and she’s completely mortified as the nurse learns the (pathetic) nature of the sex life you and your wife share.
I for sure already knew all of that. And my penis size has for sure come up in our marriage before. This one moment with the nurse, and having my wife actually feel publicly embarrassed about my penis size was an entirely new level of shame for me. And, one I have been focusing on and fetishizing on since.
Oh, wow. You should have understood from the beginning that it's one thing for you and your wife to bring up your lack of size in the privacy of your bedroom but way more another thing for your wife to have to confront a woman who's seen your penis and now sends out vibes of "How humiliating!" to your wife. Now your wife is going to have to walk around that medical area with about 6 women looking at her sending out the vibe, "Your man doesn't get too deep, does he?" And that's now a part of her life.
